– How to avoid a lengthy argument right at the beginning. “You seem angry!” – Have you ever heard this statement? Have you ever gotten angry hearing this statement, when you hadn’t been angry before? I have. It is a triggering statement for me, because I would like to think of myself as calm and […]

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Blundering NVC

How I Watered Down My Marriage With Non-Violent Communication “No, not like that! That’s not how it works!” were two of the many sentences I used to speak frequently to my husband. I was raised in a direct culture, in which criticism and anger is openly spoken and shown. This comes with benefits and drawbacks. […]

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Should I stay or should I go?

Have you ever been haunted by the question “Should I stay or should I go?” Plagued by it, back and forth, not finding the answer, not settling into any kind of certainty of your path? This question used to haunt me. There it was, lurking in corners like a pesky varmint, scaring me, bugging me, […]

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